> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://dd.malinoix.com/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # The Gray Areas of Dating - URL: https://dd.malinoix.com/the-gray-areas-of-dating/ - Published: 2012-12-19T06:00:57.000Z - Updated: 2012-12-19T06:00:57.000Z - Author: Maggie Winterton - Tags: Relationships, Women's Issues, #wordpress, #Import 2026-10-12 13:59 [![](https://dd.malinoix.com/content/images/wordpress/2013/01/the-gray-areas1-545x363.jpg "the gray areas")](http://www.flickr.com/photos/sandrascherer/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) Photo: Sandra Scherer, Creative Commons ### What are the gray areas of dating? It’s been fun talking about dating and relationships. So far a host of guest posters including myself and my husband have addressed topics including: +[10 Tips Surviving Singleness](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/11/10-tips-surviving-singleness/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) – Renee Fisher (11/26) +[On Dating: You Don’t Need A Boyfriend To Make You Happy](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/11/on-dating-you-dont-need-a-boyfriend-to-make-you-happy/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) – Julie Caulder (11/29) +[On Dating: You Complete Me](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/12/on-dating-you-complete-me/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) – Casey Tygrett (12/2) +[To Date Or Not To Date](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/12/to-date-or-not-to-date/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) – Rebekah Snyder (12/4) +[On Dating: Should Men Pursue Women First](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/12/on-dating-should-men-pursue-women-first/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) – Marc Fisher (12/6) +[Dating Made Me Throw Up In My Mouth A Little](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/12/dating-made-me-throw-up-in-my-mouth-a-little/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) – Renee Fisher (12/10) +[The Secret To Dating](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/12/the-secret-to-dating/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) – Hannah Stovall (12/11) +[5 Tips How To Get A Second Date](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/12/5-tips-how-to-get-a-second-date/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) – Tracy Le (12/12) +[On Dating: God Told Me To Break Up With You](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/12/on-dating-god-told-me-to-break-up-with-you/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) – Allison Vesterfelt (12/13) +[On Dating: Flirting With Disaster](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/12/on-dating-flirting-with-disaster/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) – Rayni Peavy (12/14) +[On Dating: I Said No](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/12/on-dating-i-said-no/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) – Renee Fisher (12/17) +[Don’t Be Afraid To Date](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/12/dont-be-afraid-to-date/?ref=dd.malinoix.com) – Krista Back (12/18) ### While this is a great list–I can’t help but wonder if we’re just barely scratching the surface on dating. *There’s much more to relationships including the deeper issues that I feel we need to address.* *Questions that need asking.* *Voices that need to be heard.* ### Also, I wasn’t anticipating on sharing a story that I had kept hidden for more than six years. The story where I said no and he kept going. I never anticipated sharing it publicly until I had fully healed. While I realize that day came for me this Monday (read my story [here](https://devotionaldiva.com/2012/12/on-dating-i-said-no/?ref=dd.malinoix.com))–I recognize some aren’t ready to share yet. *Maybe because the scars are still visible.* *Maybe it’s because you haven’t yet forgiven the person who hurt you.* *Maybe it’s because you haven’t forgiven yourself.* My mentor, [Marcia Ramsland](http://www.organizingpro.com/?ref=dd.malinoix.com), so graciously encouraged me with these words after I hit “publish” on Monday. She said, > *“This was a very brave post to write! When I healed from a painful past experience, I asked God to help me forget until someone needed me to remember. God wanted you to remember today to help someone. Who will it be?”* ### That is why I wanted to take a short breather and let you know that I am here if you need to talk. *If you have more questions than answers.* *If you don’t know how to help process your painful past.* *Or maybe you’re afraid of the future.* ### It’s okay to talk about the fears on dating–but I want us to go deeper. I want life change. I want breakthrough. *I want to see women with renewed confidence in Christ and their worth.* *I want to see men respected and respect themselves.* Starting in February, the #DatingDosandDonts will cover more of what I’d like to call *the gray areas* of dating including: +On Dating: My Parents Don’t Approve – Wendy van Eyck (2/11) +On Dating: Should We Talk About Sex? – Lisa Velthouse (2/12) +On Dating: Let Him Be A Gentleman – Bethany Jett (2/13) +On Dating: We’re Moving In Together – Arleen Spenceley (2/14) +10 Tips Online Dating – Julie Anne Wilson (2/15) I recognize these are posts on dating that don’t get covered as much in the church as they do outside. That’s why I’ve asked personally asked a few others to contribute. It is my hope that you won’t get so overwhelmed, depressed, or lose hope in relationships over the holidays. ### I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again–singles need love this holiday season. *You.* *Are.* *Loved.*